Why do Christians Refuse Counselling

Date: 28-Sep-2019

One of the main reasons why Christians today refuse counselling is because they don’t want anyone knowing the problems or struggles, they face. Some may speculate that Pastor’s these days do not understand confidentiality and they will hear all about what they have confessed which is why they are afraid. If you have a Pastor that you cannot trust; who cannot bear your burdens and intercede on your behalf without blotting out your transgression to others; you may be in the wrong church. When God aligns you with a Pastor his mission is to fill you with the word of God and encourage growth in your life. His mission is to bring out the gifts and talents within you that they may be used to glorify God. However, even though some Counsellor/Pastor proves to be a reliable and strictly confidentiality people are still worried. Some persons believe, that if they have struggles or issues, the counselor must have issues to. Some counselors do admit that they themselves speak to someone regarding certain issues in their personal life for after all we are all human, but you have to understand that everyone do not have the same level of grace and strength. So, what is the deeper issue plaguing God’s people. Why don’t the devil want you to admit that something is wrong with you? Have you ever asked this question? Well my friends, that’s because he wants to keep you mentally trapped. He wants to keep you worrying, stressed and plummeting into daily anxiety attacks because by doing so he will keep you stagnant and unable to grow in Christ. Proverbs 23:7 states: For as a man thinketh in his heart so is he. The longer the devil have you believing that you are a failure the longer he will have control over your life. Have you ever wondered why there are so many people in church for years and don’t seem to be growing? This may be because they struggle with different types of sin such as fornication, adultery, lying, stealing, gossiping etc. but won’t admit it to anyone. The bible says that God is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think according to the power that worketh in us. But we don’t believe in ourselves and we don’t trust God to do what he says he will do for us. God hears our prayers and we can call upon him, but he also gave us leaders and Shepard that is equipped with the word of God that can guide us. Too often, rather than seeking help we come to church day in and day out going home still trapped and in bondage. I too spent years cuddling my fears, and anxiety, telling everyone I was fine when I knew within myself, I was not. One day I called my Pastor and he asked me if I was ok. I hesitated a bit but the minute I told him that that I was NOT ok and that I was infact struggling and needed help. I got a spiritual release that very moment and felt lighter for I finally admitted that something was wrong with me. To CONFESS: means to admit that you have done something wrong or something that you feel guilty or bad about. 1 John 1: 9 states if we confess our sin, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. But he needs us to confess it first. James 5:16 also states, ‘Confess your faults one to another and pray for one another that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much’. So, in this case when your Pastor intercedes on your behalf to God after you confess your sins; it is most effective. One important thing we must remember from the book of Luke is that when you have over come your challenges, help your brothers and sisters in Christ who may be going through similar challenges; by giving a testimony. No one can give your testimony the way you can.

I encourage you to find a good Counselor/Pastor who can help you through your struggles so that God can begin to use you for his glory.

God Bless.